Just puttin' this out there...

I feel like I've been hearing a lot from friends and family, or friends who are like family, or family that are friends, that they're concerned about the state of humankind. People all over have told me their so-called "friends" are becoming less reliable, or unreliable altogether, untrustworthy, dishonest, or are flat-out disappearing from their lives. These situations always get me to thinking about change: how it comes about, and how we either accept it, fight it, or ignore it.

Does ignoring it actually accomplish anything? Is fighting it actually worth it? Is accepting it just admitting defeat?

Well, I guess that all depends on what kind of change it is and what each of us wants in relation to that change.

It seems to me that more often than not, fighting change and ignoring change are not effective ways of dealing with change. If the control is not within your means, chances are, things are going to change, whether you like it or not. Fighting it will just drain, frustrate. Ignoring it will just leave you out-of-the-loop, uninformed, ignorant. So, is the only way of dealing with change to simply accept it? And, is acceptance of change a good thing or a bad thing?

I guess it all depends on the situation.

Maybe, if one disagrees with the change, one needs to fight the change first. Determine if it's able to be saved, or reverted, or changed further still, for the better. Once one realizes one way or the other: either the situation has been modified for the better according to that individuals perspective, or the person accepts that they don't have the power to change the situation and then accepts it. And if two people or groups are involved in the change, both of which have opposing perspectives, which one "wins"?

But, how does one know when a situation is beyond ones control? When do you give up? On change. On a situation. On someone who means so much to you. How do you identify the moment that allows you to decide whether to battle onward, or throw in the towel? Where is your battle Sargent when you need him or her? How do you make the call? Who knows when to wave the white flag and retreat? What will your next move be?

I guess when it comes down to it, every situation is going to be different, and we all deal with change differently.

But, at a point, one has to ask oneself why they are reacting to the change in their particular way. If your reasons can be traced back to something selfish (read: "because I don't want to pay more taxes", "because I think only I/we deserve that right", "because I need that person", "because I want to spend more time doing x/seeing x") then perhaps it's time to take a look at the bigger picture and take the other parties interests and well-being into consideration. If your reasons are for equality/the greater good/humanity/etc. (read: "because I want a cleaner world for my grandkids", "because I believe in equality for all", "because so-and-so is being destructive to themselves or others"), then I think it's definitely worth the fight.

But, in the end, you need to decide for yourself. And you need to do so with conviction.